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1. Posted by lucyann (Budding Member 3 posts) 15y Star this if you like it!

Hi everyone, I'm just interested in who you've all travelled with? Why did you go with them and did you manage to stay friends? I went travelling in summer 2003 around Europe with just one other girl and would probably never go again with her! I'm hoping to take a holiday again in 2004 but am stuck on who to go with. I'd love to hear the ups and downs of anyone's travelling experiences and what worked best for them!

2. Posted by laspinall6 (Budding Member 25 posts) 15y Star this if you like it!

hi lucyann.
best thing to do is go on your own,
you will meet loads of new people on you travels.

3. Posted by Sam I Am (Admin 5588 posts) 15y Star this if you like it!

Hi Lucyann,

Good question... Hmm, my first real trip overseas without the folks was with my brother Pete (hangs around here somewhere too :) ); that all went fine but we were mainly staying with friends/family overseas.

After that, it was always in a group or on my own. Only twice did I end up/meet up with someone I knew and travel with them for a week or so. Both times there were some hitches (although I would travel with that person again), mainly because when there are two folk, you are kind of 'stuck' with the other person. Groups (4 or so) work much better if you know them well because you can split up for a day or so if you need to.

My best experiences when it comes to extensive travelling were on my own. Can be lonely at times (which I don't mind but some others hate so it depends on the person) but that can also be a good driving factor when it comes to meeting other folk! :)

Of course this is just my personal experience though... I am giving the one on one travel another shot next year, but considering it is my honeymoon I figure I am obliged to!!!

4. Posted by Peter (Admin 6765 posts) 15y Star this if you like it!

Definitely don't travel with your brother ;) (just kidding).

It's really a hard call! Sometimes it's impossible to know what the other person is going to be like to travel with until you actually do it. I would suggest that if you plan on travelling with only one other person, you spend a LOT of time with them before the trip. This will give you a pretty good idea of what they are like.

Travelling in groups is definitely a more successful formula IMO, as you have a few people to chat with regularly. Of course, you don't want to be ganged up on by the other members of the group!!


5. Posted by bluewaav (Inactive 627 posts) 15y Star this if you like it!

Hey Lucyann,
I've travelled in groups, by myself, and with one other person. I think the hardest one for me was travelling in the group- it was 5 girls (college friends) in Europe. We were all a little different from each other, so maybe that is why. I encountered the roughest spots with the group. We ended up having a blast, though, anyway, despite the couple bumps in the road. I also travelled one on one with someone I didn't know really well, but it was only for a couple days, so maybe that is why it worked out fine. I think to figure out that question you need to consider what you are interested in and what you want to do/see, and then try to find someone with similar interests. Another good hint would be to find someone with the same spending money and a personality that would mesh well with yours.
Happy Travelling!

6. Posted by Gelli (Travel Guru 2457 posts) 15y Star this if you like it!

I generally prefer travelling alone for many reasons - although the biggest one is the freedom aspect. I'm very much a make-it-up-as-you-go-along type of traveller and travelling with a partner/more (who you plan to travel with) is so much more restrictive. I often meet people on route and travel with them for a few days/longer, but only ever if it suits my plans and where i'm going - with people you meet on the way, there is no long term commitment and all parties know that.
Having said that, i've had some great trips with a friend (many differnt partners), groups of friends, people i've randomly met on route somewhere (including most of my best friends in life now) and also travellers i've met online/oin travel forums but not in the flesh or for long in the flesh beforehand.

I'm particularly wary about travelling with very good friends - the majority of my regular friends i wouldn't want to travel with, as i know it would probably go wrong and kill long term friendships. However, I also know that whilst many of my friends are interested in hearing about the sort of travel i do, most have no interest in doing it themselves.
A week or 2 holiday or travel is fine, but i can never completely commit to anything longer. If i did, i would always honour it even if i really wasn't enjoying it and i don't want to be in that situation.

Travelling with long term friends you also have a lot to loose, whereas travelling with people you don't know so well/at all, you don't have much to loose if it all goes wrong - but you can gain some great friends for life.

7. Posted by tingo (Full Member 94 posts) 15y Star this if you like it!

i've been travelling in groups, alone and with a friend as well.
Two years ago when I was studying in Chile, I wanted to take time to travel around for one month in South America. It was difficult to find a travel partner to go with me, so I decided to travel alone. I was a bit afraid in the beginning to be alone all the time, but from the first dat I start meeting interesting people, and I never was really alone.
This year I went back to South America for three months. The first month I left alone, after I month I met with a friend and we travelled together the other two months. The disadavantage of not being alone is that you are not always free to do what you want, and you don't do as much effort to meet/talk to other people as when you are on the road alone.
I have also been travelling with a group of people a few times (people I didn't know before the trip), a lot depends on the persons in the group. If you come along well with them, it can be fantastic, otherwise it can be really hard.
So the conlusion for me is that travelling alone is the best option, you have a lot of freedom, while you have the chance to meet many interesting people...

8. Posted by aimsuk (Full Member 112 posts) 15y Star this if you like it!

ive travelled alone and with one other person. I preferred travelling alone, because you only have to worry about yourself, and you meet people along the way anyway. The problem i found with travelling with one other is that its just the two of you, and thats fine when you are getting along, but when there has been little sleep and tempers are frayed...every little thing that didnt matter at home...now annoys the hell out of you!

9. Posted by Rach-a (Respected Member 368 posts) 15y Star this if you like it!

Hmm, well I'd say I agree mostly with Gelli and Bluewaave in the way that you have to find someone with similar interests and as Gelli said if you travel with people you don't know too well then you may not have alot to lose if you don't all get on but at the same time can make some great friends for life.

With me, I have only once travelled with a group that I didn't really know atall (they just worked with me but I didn't really know them) and it really didn't work in my favour atall In fact if I'm honest it was only for a long weekend to Blackpool and I felt totally excluded and it was a disaster. It was a bit like as Peter said you don't want to feel like a group is ganging up on you. I basically just didn't click with these girls. I felt like they'd just invited me to make up the numbers, they didn't bother talking much to me and they all knew each other whereas I didn't really know them. Even other people were coming up saying are you not going to talk to this girl and I felt really stupid and everything :( So I wouldn't recommend travelling with a group that you do not know basically. I figured from the experience that it would be very rare that you just join a group of people that you don't know and just click automatically. However a group that you do know well it could be different. As for wanting to go to a strange country and having the odd travel partner to keep you company then that could work more in favour. I still haven't been put off by meeting new people. I am open to meeting them but like to find someone who definitely has similar interests to me as to what to do when travelling. Sometimes you meet strangers and just click automatically and can talk about anything and everything and be really relaxed. Whereas other times it may not work out like that and so in that case I would just make plans to travel alone as I ain't too good with awkward silences etc.!

10. Posted by jorppa (Budding Member 25 posts) 15y Star this if you like it!

hey Lucyann,

i went to australia with a friend of mine i just new for a couple of years. Nothing went wrong, though we are quite different people. But we had one common interest: music. we had quitars and stuff and anytime we had some trouple we just went to do some busking. We did travel alone for half the time, but that didnt happen because of any problems.
So best bet is to choose someone who doesnt stress, and have the mentality to be parted and not lose friendship the same time. Travelling alone is fun too, of course...