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1. Posted by Gelli (Travel Guru 2457 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

I promise not to let it become a habit, but this is actually a serious post

I’m at that pivotal moment in life, and need to make a decision. Just looking for some words of wisdom/advice from a load of people i don’t know, and none of whom know any details.

I’m close (less than 2 months) to finally heading off and doing the long term travel thing, including covering a couple of my big dreams. I have funds, as much time as I want – within reason – off from work and a guaranteed job at the end of it, in all likelihood in a new and exciting location, instead of coming back here. Sounds a no brainer.


I also have a more or less once in a lifetime business opportunity. One of my small side projects looks like it’s hit paydirt. I would still get to travel, but not as much, and it mean I would probably end up staying in Europe. There’s a high likelihood that it could take off in a big way, and my investment would pay off with substantial profits. Meaning I would then be able to travel significantly more and with no worries in a couple of years time.

However, as with any investment, there is risk attached, and also if it does kick off, it may be harder to detach myself from the process. In addition it’s a couple of extra years down the road, when I’ll (obviously) be a couple of years older, and maybe feeling more settled/have a partner/whatever and, possibly, may not be as inclined or able to travel. But it is a brilliant opportunity. If I wasn’t in the position to travel otherwise, I’d be off and do it like a shot.

And just to complicate things.

Earlier this week I’ve been headhunted by TWO separate companies, both offering extremely interesting and diverse jobs, and two things I would love to get involved with. Both offer decent hikes in money plus perks, and chance of very good careers. In both cases I would be moving to life somewhere else, and would have at least a limited opportunity to travel, but both would tie my down for 12-18months respectively, and would be more office based. Either one of those jobs I would take in a shot if I didn’t have either the inclination/money to travel, the business opportunity or the other job offer.

As an extra.

There’s a couple of other very interesting ideas possibilities in the more medium term (maybe autumn or next year) which I need to consider.

And finally.

McDonalds are hiring.

What the f*ck should I do? All are great opportunites, and everyone I would jump at tf I didn’t have any other options (well, maybe not MaccyD’s). But I do, and realistically, I can only do 1 now. Normally I trust my gut reaction absolutely, and it’s not let me down yet, but this time I don’t have one thing it’s saying, except indigestion which isn’t hugely helpful. I know this is one of those pivotal moments/decisions in life, which greatly affects my future. And I have no idea what to do. And need to come to a decision fairly quickly.

So good people of TP, without knowing in’s and outs, give me your words of wisdom, advice, or at least sarcasm.


2. Posted by Cupcake (Travel Guru 8468 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

Dear Dear Gelli....this is truely a dilemma, but you of course realize how bloody lucky you are to have this?! Most people have to choose the lesser of two evils...You have before you nothing but brass rings:)
How soon do you have to make a decision? Maybe fate will give you a sign in the next few days...or something will become clearer to your own 'gut feelings'! Whatever happens and whatever you decide...I wish nothing but happiness and luck to you!

3. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

First of all...

Wow! who knew? Gelli, the intrepreneur. I'm suitably impressed.

Secondly, on a serious note....

1)How much of a risk-taker are you? If it was me I would go with the Gelli-project. Okay, so there's a big risk involved, but if it doesnt work out at least you gave it a shot and it doesnt sound like you're the kind of guy who's going to end up on the scrap-heap anyway. You will never have to regret not giving it a try. It flops and you go travelling then. On the other hand, if it takes off...well....then you're OBVIOUSLY not going to regret postponing the travel are you!

2)How strong is your urge to travel right now? Do you feel that it outweighs your career at this time in your life? Are you gonna crack up if you dont do it?
So, you go travelling - who knows who you're going to meet, what experiences you're going to have that might just blow all the career stuff out the water.

But I think if I had something as exciting as my own business/project/investment looking like it might become a reality then I would postpone putting my bundle on my back temporarily.


4. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

oh, and good luck coming to the right decision Rich;)

5. Posted by daveh (Travel Guru 1027 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

A few thoughts from me - when i have decisions like this to make i always think only of the big picture only. I think the most important thing to remember is you're still pretty young (i assume yr profile is right and you're 26). Sounds like you're a pretty switched on guy too so there is nothing to say you won't get head-hunted or be able to pick up a decent career when you finish travelling. Upon saying that, this business opportunity of yours, i think you have to decide if you don't put all your efforts into it, and, postpone your travel plans whether some day you are going to regret it. I think if you have a love of travel then it stays forever and you don't join the 'pipe and slippers' club. Good luck whatever you decide to do.

6. Posted by loubylou (Respected Member 664 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

I agree with the other comments on here...if your urge to travel isn't going to go away, then it could be postponed. Postponing your travel plans is a really difficult decision, I know I have just done it because of my work (my office is closing and in order to get a redundancy payout I have to wait until June 2006 - I was meant to be going in June this year!)

I agree with Dave, your urge to travel won't go away, I would love to start my own business but I don't have the money to do it. If you have the chance at setting up a business then I would say go for that...that's what I would chose in your place. Again to re-iterate an earlier point if it goes belly-up at least you know you have tried! If it's a success on the other hand, imagine the freedom and financial security that could give you. Hope this helps

Go Gelli go, we're all with you! What would your own business be by the way, anything us TPers would be interested in buying from?


7. Posted by mim (Travel Guru 1276 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

I'd go with the golden arches only kidding,

The way you write about this investment oppertunity sounds like you're really excited bout it. Which says a lot to me.
You know it's always difficult to give up travel plans but at the end of the day, you (health permitting) will always have the opportunity to travel.
I've given up some travelling plans for various reasons this year and while I'll always be yearning to scratch those itchy feet sometimes it's something you just gotta do.

I don't envy having to make the decision I say I've had to make some tough decisions and the best way to do it is literally to just plump for it and DON'T LOOK BACK! trust yourself to make the right decision and don't think about regretting it! cos you probably will watever, the grass is always greener rich my lovely!

good luck

8. Posted by dpd (Full Member 138 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

Hi there Gelli;

It's nice to have choices but in your case difficult ones it seems. You can only regret the things you have not done. So, ask yourself the question, "which of the choices would you most regret not doing?". Whatever choice you make will be the right one because it will lead to other choices.

Enjoy :

9. Posted by Sam I Am (Admin 5588 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

Hey Rich,

Well, if you drop out on doing that trans-siberian with me, I am going to be real upset! :)

Okay, seriously though. As someone that owns a business AND loves to travel, I had to make a similar choice a few years ago (there were also other job ops and a woman involved so I know what you are going through). I have never regretted going full for the business venture (and the woman) and I am very happy with the choice. It did/does mean I probably will never be able to do my '2 years on the road' trip, but I get to travel shorter trips quite often and can really enjoy it when I do. Others have said it before, the travelling ops will always be there and although they might change somewhat, it's also good to have goals to work towards and not do everything you always dreamed about in one go

Having your own business is hard work, exhausting at times, but exilirating at others. You watch your 'baby' grow, your ideas become reality and a little piece of you make a bigger impact on the world at large - ok, so that might be overreacting a little but you get the picture.

Is there a way to combine the two. Do for example just a month of travelling and then come back to your project and start it with fresh ideas and insight? If possible, I'd probably try and do something like that.

Good luck!

ps. as you can tell, I am discarding the head hunted options. They will always be there if you ask me...

10. Posted by Rraven (Travel Guru 5924 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

emm its a hard one but i think you should go for the project, you're a traveller at heart who changes base and country more then some people have had hot dinners so that will always be with you, its not something you can lose, i can't imagine you being so settled that you feel tied to any place, as for the partner side of the future, she'll probably go with you as she would understand it is a part of who you are and if not then well it wasn't meant to others have said you sound excited about the project so go for it, also a guy i know just left work today at the age of 49 for 3 years to travel around the world and he says you're never too old or too broke (he's leaving with a round the world ticket, and €500.)